Are you and your guy constantly arguing with each other? Does it feel like you can’t stand to be in the same room for more than five minutes? Are you about to throw in the towel? Before you make a decision you might regret, look at the reasons why you argue all the time.
1) Work Stress
The number one reason couples fight has nothing to do with you, it has to do with work. We all like to think that work doesn’t affect us at home, or that we are able to leave our work issues on our desk before we clock out, but it’s not true.
Stress at work causes you to remain stressed at home, and that often causes us to lash out at those around us. If this is the case, restoring a work life balance is definitely needed to help your relationship.
2) Boredom
It might sound absolutely ridiculous, but I can honestly say that I know people who cause arguments with each other simply because they’re bored.
That’s right, boredom causes drama. I’ll be honest, I hate being bored or being stuck in the house. There are times I’ve gone off on boyfriends simply because I’ve needed to get out of the house and have fun (instead of sitting inside watching TV on yet another Saturday night).
Go out and have some fun together, see if this doesn’t help bring a little love back into your relationship.
3) No Communication
ou can’t NOT talk. When you and your guy don’t talk, accusations and insecurities set in which causes arguments.
Ladies, sometimes there really are times he has nothing on his mind (I know, I’ve never understood it either), and asking him “what’s wrong” will get you the same stoic “nothing” in response.
It might actually be nothing.
When there is something wrong, though, and you have something on your mind, or he has something on his, you have to be able to talk openly about it. Hiding feelings usually makes us feel like our partner is hiding something devastating (perhaps an affair) and we get defensive.
Don’t assume your lover is spending time with another. Open your communication and talk to each other. The same goes for you, if something’s on your mind (no matter how trivial you might think it is) you have to share it with him. He wants to know you trust him with your feelings and you’ll feel better getting whatever it is off your chest.
4) Lack of Affection
Little things are important in a relationship, and affection is something we tend to put on the back burner when we get comfortable with our partner. It’s very important to continue to show affection (saying “I love you” regularly, kissing your honey before you go to work or when you come home).
When you skip the affection, you’re opening yourselves up to those insecure feelings and encouraging arguments.
5) Too much time together
Sometimes people need time apart. Are you and your guy spending every waking moment together? Have your girlfriends long given up on getting you to go out shopping or have dinner?
If the answer is yes, then you might have the answer to your problem. Couples argue all the time when they’re together all the time. It’s imperative that you remember even though you’re a couple, you’re still an individual human being, and that means you need time to yourself.
Pick up a hobby.
6) Too little time together
On the other hand, if you and your guy don’t see enough of each other, there could be arguments. Couples who are separated through different work hours or business travel tend to argue all the time because there is a lot of resentment involved.
If you never get to see your guy, or he never gets to see you, then you need to stop and plan a weekend getaway together. Rekindle your love by spending time ignoring the rest of the world.
7) Money
Money is one of the biggest causes of arguments in any relationship. It’s hard being broke, believe me, I know! The stress of not knowing if you’re going to be able to make ends meet this month will always work its way into your relationship.
Don’t let financial issues tear you and your guy apart. Plan free (or cheap) ways to spend time together and rely on each other when times are hard.
8) Depression
I get seasonal depression. This, in turn, has had a negative impact on some of my previous relationships. When I’m sad, nobody can bring me out of it, I have to work through it alone.
Most men don’t understand that because they want to fix things.
If you’re depressed (or your partner is) then it might not be a bad idea to seek counseling together to get you through this tough time. Arguing will not help the situation, and sometimes it’s hard to stop the arguments when one person is suffering through depression.
9) Trying to Be Someone You’re Not
Many couples argue because one person is trying to be someone they’re not. If you’re pretending to be the kind of woman you think he wants you to be, then you’re going to resent him and the two of you will argue all the time.
Likewise, if you’re trying to make him into the kind of guy you want (but he isn’t), then you’re going to have some battles ahead.
Be yourself and let him be him. It’s not really love if it isn’t the real you he’s in love with.
